givers, and being discriminated against when they have to take time out or want to take time out to care for those they love. it's true at the top and also at the bottom. the poorest people in our society are single mothers, we don't give them the support they need to care for those they love. if we move back to on america that valued care in the same way that we value competition, and put the structures in place, and culturally, when somebody says look, i'm caring for my children, for my parents, i am taking care of those i love, that we would regard that as every bit as important as bringing home the bacon, that that's essential to who we are. obviously we are investing in the next generation, we are caring for our elders, but we tilted as a society to value the bringing om, the bread winning and devaluing the care giving for women and men.